The Relationship won't work out
No, it's not a curse. It's more of a fact.
Let me tell you a story;
Long long time ago, Onome was in love. She's not new to falling in love but this particular love is different, she was swept off of her feet. It's the kind of love you read in novels and see in movies. She was in cloud 9. Best thing that ever happened to her.
Onome happened to be a fresh graduate, before long she secured a 9-5 job, the pay was okay, not much but okay, better than nothing she thought.
Onome was in a good place, she was happy, though she sensed something was missing in her life but she was happy at the moment. She had the best relationship, a good job, what more could she ask for? What could happen? So she started planning happily ever after with her love.
And yes, you guessed right. It ended. Immediately after, the pandemic happened and she was laid off at work. Onome became miserable, her life as she knew it was over, she had no other means of income, the little savings she had was used in feeding which means she was heartbroken, penniless and mightily depressed.
If you ask me, that's the worst combination of misery that could ever happen to someone.
Some of us are/was/are going to be Onome.
So what am I trying to bring out from the story? Read on!
In this part of the world, we have been conditioned to think school-work-marriage, sometimes even, marriage comes before work depending on the family you are from. So we go through life without purpose sometimes, the endgame for us is marriage.
Thank God Onome's relationship didn't end up in marriage, she would have been more miserable and no use to her partner.
Yes God ordained marriage but He also ordained purpose. Infact He ordained purpose before marriage, Adam knew what he was meant to do before God gave him Eve as a help mate.
Onome relationship ended because she haven't come to become one with her being yet, she was yet to recognize she have a purpose which wasn't the happily ever after she was romanticizing that early, she was living in the fantasy of her future in her present life. Life never work out that way.
Most relationships/marriages don't work out because the couple are focused on "our" purpose when they are yet find out "my" purpose.
There's a reason you came to this life alone, even if you are a twin I promise you two heads didn't thrust out of your mother's womb at once. You are meant to live your life first, find your purpose, acknowledge your truth before anything else. If you do "our" before "my", confusion and pain are sure to set in.
On the path of finding your purpose, you will get hurt but don't linger on the hurt. Pain is part of growth. God said He would be your peace in the midst of a storm, He was advertently telling you in advance you will have many occasions to say "omo!" but He would see you through it.
So have you found your purpose or are you Onomeing right now??😶
Adunni_adeh
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